Grant Montgomery: Healing and emotional recovery
Even in the best of circumstances, healing takes time. How much more so when our hearts have been broken. Emotional and spiritual healing takes time, but it will come.
The Teacher in Ecclesiastes conveys that there is a time for everything, among them: a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, and a time to tear and a time to mend.
Everything has to happen in its own good time. And unfortunately there are no shortcuts. In fact, an old proverb can be all too true, “The longest distance between any two points is the shortcut!”
So healing takes time. Acknowledge and accept this fact.
We will encounter unnecessary problems if we do not realize that we all go through different stages of growth, and we must mature in one stage before we can go on to the next. To progress to that next stage, we must have time, along with grace and truth.
In the process of our spiritual recovery, we discover and more greatly appreciate things of real value. As far as material values, there are two ways to be rich: You earn, inherit, or steal enough money to meet all your desires; or instead you cultivate a simple lifestyle of few desires; and that way you always have enough.
When healing emotionally and spiritually, it is often a good time to seek out the simple way, and discern the difference between needs and wants. We discover we have few basic needs but can have endless wants.
And above all, understand this: You can do nothing to change the past. And the future will never arrive exactly as you expect or hope for. Your sorrow, anger, regret, fears and guilt live in the past, so seek to live your life to the fullest in the present, letting go of those things that are past.